And so, upon pondering on the hectic week, I realized, the stress bug kinda bitten me. I felt it.
However, with a schizophrenic personality, seriously, no one can determine if I’m totally stressed. And speaking of stress, I listed some of the attitude change you could probably observe on me especially if I’m stressed.
EXTREME SILENCE. I’m a kind of person who would work work and work rather than talk during working hours. However, if I’m stressed, oddly, I tend to become quiet. Yeah. I concentrate a lot to meet deadlines. But mind you, once I finish my job, I tranform back into a loud and witty me.
IRAP (SUNGIT). If you see me making a sudden “irap,” that’s the sign that maybe I’m busy thinking or doing something and suddenly I’m interrupted. Back in the Philippines, whenever I study, my family knows that I should not be disturbed. They only talk to me once I get out of my room, join them for dinner, and engage in a relaxing chit chat in the living room. Thankfully, here in Brunei, my housemates are sensitive enough to distance themselves whenever the” I’M BUSY” button is on. Isa pa, at least we have our own rooms here in Brunei to enjoy our privacy. Don’t worry, the ‘irap’ moments are very rare. As much as possible, iniiwasan ko!
Despite the busy week, as a certified survivor, I undeniably survived. I know that more stressful days will come. Soon, postgraduate studies will eat my schedule. Tons of projects will come along as this is our agency’s peak season. And more office brouhaha will fire to spice up each day. Nevertheless, as long as I have a complete trust to God and I’m confident I’ll succeed on each task, everything will be alright. On top of that, I would never let the good relationship I have with the people around me just be ruined just because I’m stressed. I guess, being stressed is not an excuse to hurt others or pull down the joyous environment. For that, I would rather trash kasungitan, moodyness, kairapan, and all of those nega attitudes.
At these times, I need to balance my life, be optimistic and enjoy whatever experiences I may choose to take. I have to be strong. I have to dwell on happy times than wallow on lonely and stressful times.
Life is full of decisions. I decided to work and study. It’s my choice. I have to deal with it.
Gayunpaman, work hard, study harder, pray harder-ER!
Now, let me share this for those who want to fight stress!
O, bakit ka na naman na-i-istress? Did you wake up on the wrong side of the bed?
Meron ka bang deadline na i-bi-beat ngayong araw na ito?
It's important to understand stress before we can effectively manage it
kaya Stress ang pag-uusapan natin ngayon.
Ayon sa mga scientists mayroong dalawang uri ng stress.
Eustress and Distress.
Eustress is positive stress. Ito ang nararamdaman ng isang dalaga kapag dumarating na ang kanyang manliligaw at may daladalang flowers. Eustress din ang tawag sa stress na nararanasan ng mga nagwo- work-out when they are doing their exercises. Ang mga athletes, pagkatapos na ma-stress ang kanilang muscles, they rest para ma-repair ang kanilang muscles. Kapag hindi sila nagpahinga, the stressed muscles will be injured. When injury happens, yan ang distress.
Distress is the negative side of stress. Nakakaramdam ka na ng sakit ng ulo, pagsakit ng tiyan,
hindi na makatulog, di pa makakain. Distress ang uri ng stress na nagreresulta sa kung ano-anong sakit tulad ng hypertension , minsan nga ay emotional breakdown pa.
Ano ba ang pwede nating gawin para ang stress natin ay hindi maging distress? Famous author and inspirational speaker, Dr. John Maxwell has the following suggestions:
Don't be overly sensitive to criticism.
Tanggapin na natin ang katotohanang hindi natin kayang i-please ang lahat ng tao. Talagang mayroong hindi aayon sa iyo kahit na napaka-noble ng iyong mga intentions and motives.
So when you receive criticisms, take it constructively kung sensible ang criticism.
If you think the criticism is not objective , huwag na lang pansinin at ng hindi ka madistress.
Don't take too much pride in your achievements.
Ang pride ay parang uling, ginagatungan niyan ang distress. Ang taong proud ay mas lalong nadi-distress dahil masyado niyang iniingatan ang kanyang achievement at accomplishment. Minsan nga our achievements hinder us from growing and learning kasi sinasabi natin sa ating sarili, aba may na-accomplish na ko. Mas mahusay ako kaysa sa iba, hindi na nila ko pwedeng turuan.
Ang lungkot ng buhay kapag naging ganyan ang attitude natin.
Don't harbor jealousy over the achievement of others.
Ang taong mainggitin madalas ding madistress, kasi nga totoo namang mayroong mas higit kaysa sa atin. Natural ang iba ay maaaring magkaroon ng achievements na wala tayo di ba. Instead of being jealous or envious, let's learn to rejoice in the successes of others. Malay mo malibre ka pa bogchi dahil nakikigalak ka sa kanilang tagumpay, di ba?
Don't focus on your weaknesses and inadequacies.
Ang sugat kapag mas lalo mong ginalaw mas lalong lalala at baka maimpeksyon. The more you focus on your weaknesses and inadequacies the bigger the tendency of wallowing in self-pity. While it is important to acknowledge your inadequacies, it is helpful to focus on your strengths and capabilities.
One effective way of fighting distress is by counting our blessings -the good things which life brings. When we have grateful hearts, we will always be reminded that we are too blessed to be stressed!